Friday March 2, 2012

Another weekend is upon us and this one will bring the basketball season to a close. The 6th grade Spartans will play in the grade level State Basketball Tournament up in Prior Lake. Erin is heading to the cities this afternoon with the Olson mafia, as we affectionately refer to them: Tom and Brooke and their own three kids - Anna, Hallie, and Siri, along with cousin Lexie. Why not throw in an O'Hara for good measure! Should be entertaining. Dan is not looking to spend extra nights in hotels, so we are lucky that the Olsons are willing to let Smiley tag along so she doesn't miss out on any of the fun. Dan and I will join them in the morning in time for the first game and then stay tomorrow night with the whole team.

Erin has had a good couple of days. Always nice to have something fun to look forward to and Dan returning home from his travels last night also brightened her spirit. He brings the energy and fun around here. Erin may tease her dad about liking it when he's away, but truth be told, she's happy when he returns.

While there is no right or wrong way to grieve, we've talked a lot with Erin about the things we can control and the things we can't. We couldn't stop the tumor and we can't bring Shannon back. Those things were beyond our control. And that brings us sadness and grief. We still catch ourselves at some point each day thinking, "I can't believe that Shannon is gone." Sometimes that makes us cry, and sometimes that makes us mad. Depends on the day, depends on the moment, actually...

But, the three of us are still here and we are going on living and it is possible to to carry on and to find bits of joy and happiness amidst the pain. This weekend will be fun and we are all looking forward to it. I read a quote recently from Helen Keller that said "Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of overcoming it." That is our job, that is our goal. To keep on keepin' on ... even if some days we have to fake it to make it ...